The Aligned Living Podcast - Conversations on living from congruence: body, heart, mind & soul.

Aligned Relationships: Communication - 2 Conversations

In this episode of the Aligned Living Podcast, Iesha continues the theme of aligned relationships and introduces a practical communication skill she teaches often in her coaching work: “Two conversations.”
This episode focuses on a common pattern in relationships where someone raises an issue, but the conversation gets derailed into something else - tone, timing, defensiveness, a list of other grievances or requests for acknowledgement.
Iesha offers a simple framework to help you stay connected, reduce deflection, and make space for what actually needs to be heard.
In this conversation, you’ll hear about:
✨ Why some conversations go off track, even when both people care
✨ How reactive and defensive patterns (conscious or unconscious) can block resolution
✨ The communication skill of recognising when two conversations are needed, not one
✨ Common situations where this applies (tone, timing, defensiveness, feeling under-appreciated)
✨ How naming “let’s have two conversations” can reduce conflict and support better connection
✨ Why this skill helps create more honesty, understanding, and healthier foundations in relationships
As always, Iesha invites you to run what she shares through your own filters, and to take what is useful for your unique situation.
If you’d like support with communication patterns in your own relationships, you’re welcome to reach out and explore Iesha’s coaching options:
https://ieshadelune.com.au/offerings/wholistic-coaching/
 

Other People’s Advice and Opinions

In this episode of the Aligned Living Podcast, I’m talking about other people’s advice and opinions - the kind you hear from books, friends and family, mentors, strangers, and the internet. I’m sharing a simple pattern of self-reflection you can run yourself through, so you can explore external input through your own unique foundations before you apply it to your life.I walk through why what worked for someone else doesn’t automatically transfer to you, for three main reasons:We are unique. What inspires and delights one person can drain and deplete another. Difference is how we create synergy in our world. We have different starting points. Our physical, financial, emotional and energetic resources differ, and so do our neural pathways and patterns.We have different intentions for our results. “Success” isn’t one-size-fits-all, and neither is the “hard work” required to get there.To make it practical, I use two examples:the “100mm concrete slab” analogy - and how to run confident advice through the specifics of your own circumstancesthe common idea that “all it takes for a successful marriage is hard work” - and how “success,” “hard work,” and your starting point can change what that advice actually meansWe also explore why it can feel more complex to filter advice when it comes from people whose approval matters to you, or from someone who has a result you deeply want. I also speak about the importance of looking at who is offering the advice — and whether you actually want the result the way they have it.If you’re learning to strengthen your inner filters and make choices that honour your unique alignment, this episode will support you.And if you want help applying it directly to your own situation, you’re welcome to book a single session with me and we’ll sort it in one hour.You can book single sessions (or a discovery call for more in-depth work) on this page: https://ieshadelune.com.au/offerings/wholistic-coaching/ (scroll down past the description)

Stop Watering Plastic Plants

Your life force energy is precious.It’s what animates your body. It fuels your immunity, your health and vitality, your focus, and the actions you take each day. It can also be depleted.In this episode, I’m inviting you to make conscious choices about what you work on, because some situations will not shift to fit your yearnings, no matter how much hard work you put in.You can water a plastic plant for years and it will never grow fruit. And if self-blame is your go-to when things don’t work, you can spend those years blaming yourself for what was never going to transform.We explore why it can be so hard to recognise “plastic plant” situations, especially when change involves other people. I share the three main reasons people stay committed to an incongruent path:Loss aversion - and how our nervous system can treat potential loss as dangerLost time and not wanting to be wrong - including the pull of right/wrong thinkingFocusing on short-term pain rather than longer-term alignment - including the grief that can come with aligned changeI also share a real example from my work with a client who came to “make the best of” a relationship she felt stuck in, and how everything changed when she moved from survival fear into the knowing that she had options. From there, she was able to do the deep work, have different conversations, and the relationship dramatically improved.If you want to explore how this applies in your own life, whether it’s a relationship, a workplace, an environment, or a long-standing pattern, you’re welcome to book a Discovery Call with me and we’ll talk it through. Visit my website, explore 1-1 Wholistic Life Coaching, and book your Discovery Call here: https://ieshadelune.com.au/offerings/wholistic-coaching/

Success That Nourishes Your Whole Life

We’re often told that if something isn’t working, we just need to try harder… want it badly enough… or push ourselves a little more.In this episode of the Aligned Living Podcast, Iesha offers a different lens on success, one steeped in congruence, sustainability, and whole-life alignment.Drawing on over two decades of experience as a Wholistic Life Coach, Iesha explores why effort alone doesn’t course-correct a life that’s out of alignment, and offers the invitation to redefine success through the lens of alignment: body, heart, mind and soul.In this conversation, you’ll hear reflections on:✨ Why defining success from highly charged or depleted states often leads to burnout, collapse, or long-term dissatisfaction ✨ The importance of revisiting your definition of success as you evolve, rather than staying committed to an old version that no longer fits✨ The difference between survival-based decisions and considered, wholistic and aligned decisions✨ How fear-based foundations can lead to either collapse or endless striving✨ Why aligned success feels nourishing, sustainable, and relieving - not exhausting✨ How effort without alignment can actually take you further from what you want, like walking harder in the wrong direction on a bush track✨ Why awareness, not willpower or force, is what allows real course correctionThis episode is an invitation to look honestly at what you’ve been building, what it’s built on, and whether your version of success is something your whole life can actually thrive with.If you’re on a path of personal growth, healing, or change, and you want success that supports vitality, integrity, and long-term wellbeing, this reflection offers a grounded place to pause, reassess, and realign.If you’d like support in redefining success in a way that honours your whole life, you’re welcome to explore working with Iesha through a single session or longer-term 1-1 coaching.https://ieshadelune.com.au/offerings/wholistic-coaching/

Integrity as Alignment

Integrity is usually talked about in terms of honesty, ethics, and how we treat others. But what if integrity also includes how consistently we honour our own alignment with ourselves?In this episode of the Aligned Living Podcast, Iesha invites you into a deeper, more embodied exploration of integrity - not as a moral standard to uphold, but as the structural integrity of your inner life.Drawing on her definition of congruence (body, heart, mind and soul in alignment), Iesha explores integrity as an inner structure, much like the structural integrity of a building. When alignment is compromised for too long, signs begin to appear, not as personal failure, but as feedback.This episode explores:✨ Integrity as something that includes how we tend to the whole of ourselves ✨ Alignment as an energy structure that requires awareness, care, and ongoing attention ✨ How taking up too much or too little space in life affects vitality and resilience ✨ Each person has their own unique “care label”, and why comparison pulls us out of alignment ✨ How honouring your own alignment strengthens your integrity in relationships and in lifeThis conversation is an invitation to reflect on integrity not as a standard to live up to, but as a lived relationship with yourself - one that supports energy, clarity, and truth over time.If you’re on a path of personal growth, healing, or self-honouring change, this reflection offers a steady, compassionate reframe that supports sustainable vitality, clarity, and alignment.If you're curious about working 1-1 with Iesha, you're invited to visit the Wholistic Life Coaching page of her website: https://ieshadelune.com.au/offerings/wholistic-coaching/

Five Guide Rails for Aligned Intention & Change

When you’re setting new intentions, imagining a different future, or feeling the pull toward change, how you approach that process matters just as much as what you want to create.In this episode, Iesha offers a wholistic life coaching perspective on turning intentions into aligned action - without burnout, self-pressure, or building on foundations that won’t hold.Rather than goal-setting in isolation, this conversation introduces five essential guide rails to support congruence across your whole life.In this episode, you’ll explore:✨ Congruence: why true alignment requires your body, heart, mind, and soul to all be in agreement ✨ Foundations: looking beneath the goal to understand why you want it, and how the ‘fuel’ beneath an intention affects the way it’s carried forward ✨ Self-trust: an invitation to notice whether an intention is arising from your own inner knowing, or from external agendas ✨ Communication: an invitation to consider what needs to be learned or practiced for alignment to be lived with others ✨ Wholistic ecology: why setting goals in silos creates pressure and depletion, and how honouring your whole life creates sustainable momentumThis episode is a grounded invitation to slow down the intention-setting process just enough to ensure that what you’re building is truly aligned - not just achievable, but life-nourishing.If you’re curious about how working 1-1 with Iesha could support you in creating a more aligned, honest, and nourishing life, you’re warmly invited to book a no-cost Discovery Call: https://TimeWithIesha.as.me/NoCostDiscoveryCall

I Am Here: The Only Place Aligned Change Can Begin

In this episode of The Aligned Living Podcast, Iesha explores why real, lasting change can only begin when we’re willing to fully acknowledge our current reality.So often, when we want something to be different, we stay mentally focused on the past or the future, replaying what shouldn’t have happened, imagining how things will improve one day, or waiting for time to “sort it out.” But while our attention lives there, we’re not actually present in the only place where choice and action are possible: here.Through grounded examples drawn from relationships, work, and wellbeing, Iesha unpacks what acceptance really means, and what it doesn’t. Acceptance, in this context, isn’t giving up, agreeing with what happened, or resigning yourself to stay where you are. It’s the honest acknowledgement of where you’re starting from.In this episode, you’ll hear:Why you can’t create change while denying the life you’re currently livingHow mental focus on the past or future pulls you out of your present moment and your powerWhy acceptance is not the end of the story, but the only empowered starting pointHow landing in “I am here” allows aligned action to become possibleWhy fantasies about the future can quietly keep you stuck if the present is never acknowledgedThis episode is an invitation to gently but honestly land in your now — without self-judgment, without resignation, and without illusion — and to recognise that meaningful change doesn’t come from endurance or denial, but from clarity, presence, and aligned next steps.From this place, aligned change becomes possible.If you’re curious about how working 1-1 with Iesha could support you in creating a more aligned, honest, and nourishing life, you’re warmly invited to book a no-cost Discovery Call.You can also explore session options and longer-term support here:https://ieshadelune.com.au/offerings/wholistic-coaching/

Alignment Isn’t Passive Magic

There’s a popular belief that if you wait long enough, things will sort themselves out.“Time will take care of it.”“It’ll all work out how it’s meant to.”“What’s meant for me won’t pass me by.”While these ideas can sound comforting, they’re not how co-creating with life actually works.In this episode, I speak to the difference between waiting and aligning, and why staying committed to an incongruent path doesn’t magically transform it.Congruence isn’t a reward for endurance. Alignment doesn’t come from continuing in misalignment.True alignment, body, heart, mind and soul all saying yes, returns when we’re willing to pay attention to our own feedback, get honest with ourselves, and make the small, meaningful changes that honour what we find.This is an invitation to turn inward, to notice where you may be tolerating what you wish was different, and to ask: What’s one step I could take today that would bring me back into alignment with myself?Alignment is something we participate in, not something time does for us. Our innate wisdom is always offering feedback when we’re out of alignment. It’s our willingness to care about that feedback, and to respond to it, that makes aligned living our reality.For more information and free resources, please visit my website:https://ieshadelune.com.au/

The Wisdom of Your Feelings: A Practical Approach to Alignment

The Wisdom of Your Feelings: A Practical Approach to AlignmentIn a culture that encourages us to push through, stay positive, manage stress, and override discomfort, our feelings can easily come to be seen as inconvenient, weak, or something to get rid of.In this episode, Iesha invites you into a very different relationship with your emotional life, one that honours feelings as meaningful, intelligent feedback.Rather than seeing feelings as obstacles, this conversation reframes them as guidance: moment-to-moment signals from your body, heart, mind and soul that invite you into congruent alignment.You’ll explore:✨ Why feelings are never the problem - and how suppressing, fixing or ignoring them pulls you further out of alignment✨ How feelings function as guidance in the same way your body signals when you’re too cold or too hot✨ What can sit beneath experiences like resentment, flatness, resistance and procrastination - and why trying to “turn them off” removes the possibility of real change✨ How learning to listen to and interpret feelings is a practical skill that develops with attention and practice✨ How misinterpreting emotional feedback can keep you pushing through situations that aren’t aligned, rather than creating honest, self-respecting change✨ Why feeling your feelings isn’t a tidal wave to fear, but an essential step in reconnecting with your own inner wisdomThis episode is an invitation to stop pushing away what your inner world is trying to show you -and to recognise that your emotional life is one of your greatest sources of truth, clarity and alignment. If you’d like support in learning how to interpret your feelings more clearly (and not get stuck in them), honour your alignment, or gain clarity around a situation that feels heavy or confusing, you can book a Clarity & Direction Session or explore longer-term support via the links below.Single Clarity & Direction Session: https://ieshadelune.com.au/offerings/clarity-direction-session-feelings-as-feedback/

Alignment: A Wholistic Perspective

In the world of personal growth, “alignment” is a word that gets thrown around a lot, but not always in the same way. In this episode, Iesha offers a clear, grounded exploration of what alignment actually means from her perspective, and why it matters so deeply for a life that feels honest, peaceful and congruent.Rather than treating alignment as a mindset, a goal, or a set of perfectly-managed circumstances, this conversation invites you into a fuller, truer definition: alignment as the living congruence of your body, heart, mind and soul.You’ll explore:✨ Why “mental alignment” alone can feel like control, effort or trigger-avoidance (and why it often leads us further away from ourselves, not closer)✨ How your body, heart, mind and soul each offer moment-to-moment feedback .… and how misinterpreting that feedback can pull you out of alignment without even realising✨ Why alignment isn’t created by rearranging the furniture of your life .…but by returning to who you are at the deepest level✨ How habitual misalignment becomes “background noise” ... and how to begin hearing your inner signals again✨ Why one aligned choice - even a small one, as part of your daily life - can begin to shift your patterns of incongruence and your overall trajectoryThis episode is a gentle invitation to return to yourself. To honour your yes. To honour your no. To feel for what is true, and allow each aligned choice create more clarity, more ease and more inner coherence.To explore working 1-1 with Iesha, for the deep work of your whole life alignment, or for a quick check-in, single session to sort that one situation, head here: https://ieshadelune.com.au/offerings/wholistic-coaching/You can book in that single session, or a no-cost Discovery Call to explore the deeper work.